Holding women’s circles and swirling around in the oxytocin of those spaces can make you feel floaty — even a little high — when you leave. (IYKYK.)

It’s beautiful, powerful, sacred work.

And if you’re also an anxious overthinker like me, you’ll know there’s usually a lot of energy poured into the lead-up. You’re planning the details, preparing your space, and maybe feeling nervous AF — and that’s okay!

Then, when you’re in facilitator mode, holding space for women, you’re likely in a deep state of focus. You’re returning to presence over and over again — a practice in itself, especially for busy minds.

I’ve been facilitating women’s circles for years. I’m confident, skilled, and know how to read a room.

And I still need to be really mindful of how I look after myself afterwards.

For me, it starts with the basics in the immediate hours: eating and drinking (because I’ve almost always forgotten to do both).

Then the next day, I don’t fill my schedule. I avoid big social catch-ups and instead prefer to be at home or out in nature with my kids.

I’ve also had therapeutic support over the years, along with body-based practices to help shift and clear energy.

Taking care of yourself in the come-down after the high (and the anticipatory nerves) of circle is so important — not just for your wellbeing, but for the sustainability of this work long-term.

If you’re thinking of running women’s circles, or already are and want more structure and support, I created Together: Women’s Circle Facilitator Training for exactly this.

👉 Join Together to learn how to hold space and hold yourself through it.